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Many women are weighed down with low self-esteem. For some reason or another, we have a tendency not to think very highly of ourselves. We often value ourselves on the negative and critical side.

I believe this grieves God because He gave us great value, immense worth, undeniable significance, and unmatched purpose when He intentionally created us in His Image.

YOU are not coincidental; not a mistake; and not invisible.

You may not realize it, but YOU are necessary! You are irreplaceable and you cannot be duplicated. No one else can complete or fulfill the role you are here to live out—large or small.

***Let’s stop rehearsing, repeating, and reflecting on things that are not true about ourselves.

***Reverse this by meditating on scriptures from the Bible (TRUTH) that affirm what God (your Beloved Creator) says about you!

***Repeat these truths AUDIBLY (and regularly) to replace the lies you’ve been rehearsing about yourself.

***And, pray and ask God to renew your mind and to release you into ALL that He created you to be… (He formed you so He knows best and He has ALL the answers regarding every dimension of your being and your existence).

Sooo, no more hiding or holding back 😊. Bring what you got 🎬… ( I’ll join you on this stage—called life 😉)

…hugs n love … (…that your inward man be renewed day by day…)

Your life , your happiness, your future, and your answers are NOT found in outside circumstances. 

Your destiny or it’s fulfillment is NOT in the hands of anyone else.

The source to everything you need is inside of YOU.

That’s great news! Release others, forgive, stop blaming, move forward, and start living your best life NOW from the inside out. 

“He who believes in Me, as the Scripture said, ‘From his innermost being shall flow rivers of living water.’” (John 7:38)

Meditate on God as your source of satisfaction and life.

I’m realizing, in this life that God has SO blessed us with, He has given us choices. LOTS of them. Ok, no surprises there. He created us as free moral agents with the capacity to choose. Nothing is forced upon us. 

In the Garden of Eden, there was abundance and prosperity. All was good, very good— freely given by God, Our Loving Creator—promising a fulfilling life. Yet, there was also the option for the forbidden, another possibility, something else to consider, with a different outcome, one leading to death. 

So, God lets us know UPFRONT, He creates choices in life to consider. They will ALL fill our mind, our heart, and our thoughts—good and evil, life and death, blessings and curses. 

BUT, He admonishes us—to ONLY CHOOSE THE ONES THAT BRING LIFE—not the ones that lead to death and destruction.

Some of the thoughts that run through our minds will lead to good, blessings, fulfillment, satisfaction, and joy. Others will lead to harmful actions/behaviors, vain imaginations, futility, low self esteem, regrets, and chasing after the wind (things that add up to=NOTHING!)

Let me warn you—just as it was with the ten spies (Numbers 13: 25-33) that came back with an evil, hopeless, self-defeating report (after spying out the good in their future, seeing the greatness that was ahead of them, and craving the promise that belonged to them) —the negative choices might outweigh the good ones.

Yes, the misguided thoughts in your head MAY BE numerous, repetitive, AND loud; they will even seem to be THE MAJORITY (the most dominant options) —

However, back to Numbers 13: there were also two other spies—THE MINORITY—who chose the life-giving options and they quieted the negative ones. . They said “We got this!” and “We CAN do this!” so, “Let’s go!”

You are going to HAVE TO FIGHT🥊 to hold onto the good, most promising, uplifting, productive thoughts you have—and choose them only. 

So, when your mind is flooded with dreams, hopes, aspirations, and plans for good; alongside thoughts of doubt, worry, excuses, insecurity, defeat, and lots of reasons why you aren’t qualified or capable—that’s normal!  

It is a Faith Fight🥊 !!  Whose report (thoughts) will you believe?

“If it’s not life-giving, it’s soul-sucking”

VickyReneeHunter, Life Transformation Coach

If you’re anything like me, I don’t like to cry. When I cry, it feels SO intense, and laborious, and gut-wrenching. Yet, afterwards, I feel somehow relieved and grateful for the tears that poured out from the depths of my being.  The released tears were therapeutic for me and cleansing in my emotions , and I feel rejuvenated. 

We mostly associate tears or crying with sadness, suffering, grief, or pain. But, because our tears are an emotional and physiological expression deep from within, they can often express a range of different emotions or reactions.

We can cry because we’re happy. We can cry when we laugh at something very funny. We can cry when we are surprised. We can cry when we’re angry. We can cry to express empathy and compassion. We can cry just because we need to cry. And, the list goes on…

Research has found that in addition to being self-soothing, shedding emotional tears releases oxytocin and endorphins. These chemicals make people feel good and may also ease both physical and emotional pain. In this way, crying can help reduce pain and promote a sense of well-being. Crying also releases toxins from our body that are produced by stress and anxiety.

We learn more about ourselves, our passions, our burdens, and our heart when we reflect (before, during, or after) on our tears and ponder what they speak deeply from within.

I’m learning not to dread crying. And, I’m learning that my tears are words and emotions that need to be shed.

I invite you to listen to your tears as you grow in your journey of self-discovery and self-love.

I am a Life Transformation Coach & Strategist. To schedule your one-on-one virtual coaching sessions, email me: info@vickyreneehunter.com.

Do you know that if you take an alcoholic off the street, clean him up, feed him daily, treat him well, and house him, he is still likely to get drunk and waste himself away. Because you’ve only changed things externally, but he’s the same inside. 

Change is temporary—transformation is eternal. 

This also is true of you (and me). If you relocate to a new city or even to an island, get a new job, find a new boyfriend/girlfriend, get plastic surgery, or perform any other external change, if you don’t transform on the inside, you’ll recreate the same toxic dysfunction or environment that you said you’d never return to.

Transformation is an inside job.

Transformation is hard work. And, just like the work a caterpillar does to change to a butterfly, it’s the work that creates lasting conversion. But it’s worth it for long-term, lasting gains. 

Do you long to change from being: gullible, passive, angry, manipulative, controlling, over-indulgent, gossipy, inhibited, withdrawn, overbearing, intimidating, naive, or other negative characteristics? 

Are there patterns in your relationships that you’d like to see change and you’re hoping the other person makes the first move? Or, are you thinking: if external factors would change—like more money, different environment, kids grow up and leave, or something else would change—then life will be better?

Truth is, you have very little—if any—control on external factors. Or, at best, you’re kept waiting with baited anticipation and high hopes that the external factors will change and have an impact on your situation.

Why wait? You can have different and better now. Because, what you can influence today is YOU. 

That’s encouraging! You have the power to impact your environment by changing YOU. 

It’s time to refocus and see the results you’ve been seeking for a long time. 

Vicky Renee Hunter, Life Transformation Coach